This is the time for marriages in India. People get married in leaps and bounds. :P.. Yeah they do. They get married, then produce kids and increase the population. This is one race where we Indians will always be ahead of others, including China ;).
Anyways, little did I know or get time to realize that some of my very close friends would also be tying their knots this season. Not only knots… they will also walk seven rounds around the holy fire and take vows of togetherness & lifelong trust… apart from all other customary rituals.
This is a part of life right?… people tend to get into relationships and then marry for happiness, security and kids blah blah blah. But it seems all surreal to me… I still cant believe that WE (me and my friends) have grown up so much so that some of us are going to be husbands and wives…
Before some one misinterprets me, I am neither a misogamist nor a preacher of celibacy. I have great respect & love for the institution of marriage. I also have some great dreams ‘about and from’ my would be spouse. But, a marriage comes with so many responsibilities… and I am scared of that. Isn’t it a little bit early?
Does any one else feel that way? I am sure in a lot of cases the answer would be ‘Hell Yes’ 😛
Fine… now coming back to friends, what are the implications for me when they get married?
- First things first: What do I gift? Will my friend like it or not? Will it be useful? Will it be memorable? What should I take into consideration before buying something? Should it be a unique piece? Will others also gift the same thing? Does it fit with the fad? I am yet to decide what to gift for the three marriages that I am going to attend in the next few days.
- Distance: Why do all marriages have to be in Bhubaneshwar or Bangalore or Hyderabad but not in Mumbai? Traveling takes a lot of time and when you work hard during the weekdays, you do not like to move even an inch during the weekends.
- Calendar: Finally why do marriage dates clash? Imagine a situation- Two of your closest friends are getting married. You met them at different stages of your life… both were very important to you and there is no fixed criteria to reject one and accept the other when you know that you cannot be at two places at the same time. How do I decide where to go and where not to? Should I toss? 😦
Amidst all these problems, one has got to remember that marriages happen only once in a lifetime (unless…). It is always a good idea to genuinely try and grace the occasion… So here I go to Bangalore next week and then Bhubaneshwar the week after to attend marriage functions of two of my closest friends and wish them a happy married life ever after.
My carelessness towards my blog is unacceptable… Long time since I posted the last time. I am trying to be back.
Life has been good here… Work is there but the fun element has increased. We friends hang out together, party more often and watch movies whenever we get time. These are the days which make one feel that time should stop… Everything has been just perfect… or at least near perfect. I am enjoying every bit of my stay here at L because I know life will change once you are into the corporate world. I won’t pass any judgments on my life which is yet to come but I know one thing for sure that people do change once they start ‘working’. And most of the times, the change is not pleasant…
‘Controls’ has started again and preparation for Manfest is already underway. Oh, BTW we have launched our first event – Karvy Online -a live stock trading event which is the biggest of its kind in the country. Mega bucks to be won plus there are a lot of other takeaways like the ‘gyaan’ of trading at a time when the market is in a slump… Also, you get to trade in commodities as well… So, form a team of 2 or 3 and register here. You can also play it individually if you want to do it alone.
On a personal level, I some times wonder how long it will take me to understand my own self. I am discovering and rediscovering myself over and over again. Every other day I find something new and I say to myself, “Oh Wow! I am like this as well…” I some times think I am becoming a better person because of this but at the same time I also feel this is hampering my natural instincts… I have become more and more conscious about who and what I am… It restricts my emotions… my actions and my reactions…
FYI, College has suddenly become ‘greener’ because of ‘imported pastures’ from Europe. 😉
It is sometimes amazing how time passes by and how people come to your life and change it for good or bad. I am still confused as far as my personal life is concerned… Maybe that is how life is.
Some things are better unsaid but I beg your pardon for putting personal stuff on a public domain.
Before some one gets me wrong, I would like to clarify that I am perfectly fine. But, being a person who probably introspects a lot, I felt I should pen down a few things.
After coming back from summers, PGP2s have established a trend of taking long walks around the campus almost every night. I have also joined the bandwagon, though gradually I have become a regular walker… I sometimes walk even twice. The cool breeze, lonely roads and relative isolation give me enough time to think about myself and my life.
I have some very good friends here in L… And it would be wrong to say that I am lonely. I have people to talk to, friends to rely upon and ears to listen to my litanies. But, as some one rightly pointed out something is missing in life.
I don’t know why I am thinking like this… Maybe I should not. But, even amongst people who are so good, why is it that I feel so isolated… so engrossed in my own thinking that I cannot keep pace with the external world. I find myself so lonely even in between a group which cannot get better. There are no answers… at least for now. Second year for me has been relatively chiller academically. I expect the load to increase soon. Things should fall into place once I am into a lot of responsibilities. The screw is getting tightened gradually…